By Alexandra Michelson |
One of the most difficult issues in a divorce is when there are disputes over the custody and/or parenting time of the children. This is especially important for Jewish parents since children are valued so highly in our Jewish faith.
The Torah tells of an age-old custody dispute with the Judgment of Solomon. Two mothers living in the same home claimed that they both were the mother of an infant. They went to King Solomon for his judgment as to who was the true mother of the child. Solomon ordered that the baby be split in two and each mother would receive one half. One mother accepted the ruling, while the other begged Solomon to give the baby to the other woman to spare his life. Solomon declared that the second mother was the infant’s true mother since she would give up her baby if necessary to spare his life.
It is from this story that the term “splitting the baby” originates, and the wisdom is applicable to custody disputes today. Divorcing parents should ALWAYS put their children before their own needs or desires. The law of Minnesota is consistent with this principle. It is centered on what is in the best interests of the child, not the parents. The parents that are the most successful in custody and parenting time disputes follow this principle and work hard at putting their children’s interests and needs above their own. In addition, the burden on the children will be lessened if their parents put their needs above their own desires. Thus, even though it is easy to get wrapped up in the emotions of a divorce or contention with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse, it is vital to put your children’s needs first.
We will be further exploring the topic of custody issues for Jewish families going through divorce in future blog postings and welcome your comments and questions.
The attorneys at Kathleen M. Newman Family Law, P.A. can help you when action is necessary to protect your rights and those of your children. Our entire approach rests on our relationship with you, the client. For more about how we can help read more on this topic by visiting our Child Custody blog.